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When Sincere Was My Mr. Big: Why It Wasn’t Meant to Be

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Choosing Myself Over Love Hello My Beautiful People; In the journey of love , we sometimes meet people who seem like they could be “the one,” only to realize they’re not. You know, like Carrie Bradshaw’s relationship with Mr. Big in Sex and the City—a connection that felt destined, but was ultimately not the right fit. I’ve recently experienced something similar with someone I’ll refer to as Sincere , and it’s taken me time to process why it just wasn’t meant to be. I’ve realized that sometimes, the hardest choice is choosing yourself over the person you thought you were supposed to be with. The Early Days: The Connection That Felt Real Like many stories that start out with excitement and passion, my connection with Sincere began with undeniable chemistry. We connected, and I found myself falling for him in a way that felt intense, almost like a fairytale . There were moments where he made me feel wanted, desired, and loved. The intimacy between us was something I cherished, and th...
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Navigating Love, Boundaries, and Self-Respect: A Journey of Letting Go

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Hello Everyone; I want to talk about love, Love. It’s a word we all seek, but what happens when the love we give ourselves is overshadowed by the love we so desperately want from someone else? The truth is, when we put all our worth into someone who doesn’t value us the way we deserve, it can tear us apart. I’ve been there. I’ve felt that gut-wrenching pain. And I want to share my journey of heartbreak , self-doubt , and ultimately finding the courage to choose myself. The Pain of Giving Too Much I was fresh out of a relationship that had drained me in ways I didn’t even realize at the time. A year-and-a-half of emotional abuse disguised as love, and I was left holding all the weight. While I balanced school and responsibilities, he stayed in my life, contributing nothing but chaos. I kept waiting for him to show up, to support me, but instead, he ran up my bills and dismissed my dreams . I remember telling myself, “I can’t do this anymore.” But walking away from him felt like cut...
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I Was 13 on the Chat Line: Validation, Danger, and Finding My Voice

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Before Social Media, There Were Chat Lines PART 1: A Young Girl Looking for Connection Hey y’all. Lately, I’ve been deep in my thoughts, thinking about my childhood specifically the stuff I explored when I was just a curious teenage girl trying to understand myself, boys, and life. Out of nowhere, I remembered the chat lines. If you’re from a certain era, you probably remember them too. Before social media was what it is today, chat lines were how a lot of us connected, flirted, and experimented with identity. But looking back as an adult and as a mom, I realize just how dangerous some of those moments actually were. Creating Lisa: My First Taste of Power I started getting on chat lines when I was really young—like 13 or 14. I’d lie about my age and create a fake persona, because I knew those spaces were meant for grown folks. But I was curious. I wanted to feel seen. The boys my age weren’t checking for Black girls like me in New York, and the chat line gave me attention I wasn’t gett...
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Sinners is Wild, Brilliant, and Unapologetically Black – Here’s Why You Have to See It

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A Cinematic Experience Like No Other Just yesterday, I went to see Sinners starring Michael B. Jordan, and let me tell you—it was a thrilling experience I did not see coming. Imagine if Django met Blade, with a splash of The Color Purple, some supernatural spice, and a whole lot of bold storytelling. It’s a film full of vampires, segregation, rebellion, passion, and music—and somehow, it all works. Let me break down what made this movie one of the best I’ve seen in a long time. Michael B. Jordan… TIMES TWO One of the most jaw-dropping parts of the movie? Michael B. Jordan plays twins—Smoke and Stack. And not just any twins—these are fully fleshed out, emotionally complex characters that you fall in love with for different reasons. It’s a showcase of his acting talent and range. Each twin carries his own story, trauma, and love life—but together, they form the heartbeat of the film. Critics are calling his performance an “acting masterclass” for a reason. His ability to create two disti...
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Navigating Racial Identity as a Liberian-American: My Journey of Self-Discovery

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Introduction: The Complexity of Racial Identity Racial identity shapes how we see ourselves and interact with the world. For Black individuals, identity development is often shaped by cultural upbringing, lived experiences, and societal expectations. As a Liberian-born American , my racial identity has been influenced by both African and African American experiences , leading to moments of cultural pride, internal conflict, and self-discovery. To explore my racial identity development, I will use Cross’s Nigrescence Model , which outlines the stages of Black identity formation. Additionally, I will reference Poston’s Biracial Identity Development Model to examine how I have navigated my African and African American identities. While Helms’s White Racial Identity Development Model focuses on White individuals, it provides insight into how racial identity is understood across different groups. This blog post will explore my personal journey, examining race, identity, and self-acceptanc...
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Yandy Smith: Standing by Her Man or Just Saving Face?

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The Love & Hip Hop Cheating Scandal How far would you go to protect your partner even if they were cheating on you? Recently on Love & Hip Hop, Yandy Smith, wife of Mendeecees Harris, found herself in the middle of a heated controversy. The drama unfolded when Jessica White confronted Yandy, claiming that her cousin’s niece received inappropriate messages from Mendeecees. This would, of course, be considered cheating , as Mendeecees is a married man. Yandy, seemingly caught off guard, initially had a moment of silence before claiming that she was actually the one in the messages— pretending to be Mendeecees. Many viewers found this response suspicious , believing Yandy was covering for her husband. She even went as far as apologizing to him for using his account, which only fueled speculation that she was lying to protect him. Yandy’s History of Relationship Controversy This scandal isn’t the first time Yandy’s relationship has come under scrutiny. Allegations have long circul...
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Betrayed by Friends: The Shocking Truth Behind a Broken Friendship

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Friendship is supposed to be built on trust, loyalty, and respect. But what happens when the very people you trust most betray you in the worst way possible? What happens when a close friend someone you once thought you knew becomes the person who hurts you the most? This is the story of how my world was turned upside down, how I learned painful truths about people I thought I could trust, and how that betrayal changed everything. The Friendship That Seemed Too Good to Be True Cindy and I had a strong friendship . We bonded over a love for music she was a rising star everyone knew and admired. I admired her talent, and over time, she became a close friend. We laughed together, ate together, and spent countless hours chatting and supporting each other. But looking back, I realize there were signs I ignored. Cindy had a complicated past—one that involved toxic relationships. She got involved with an abusive alcoholic and drug addict, a pattern that repeated itself in her life. She didn’...
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