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When Sincere Was My Mr. Big: Why It Wasn’t Meant to Be

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Choosing Myself Over Love Hello My Beautiful People; In the journey of love , we sometimes meet people who seem like they could be “the one,” only to realize they’re not. You know, like Carrie Bradshaw’s relationship with Mr. Big in Sex and the City—a connection that felt destined, but was ultimately not the right fit. I’ve recently experienced something similar with someone I’ll refer to as Sincere , and it’s taken me time to process why it just wasn’t meant to be. I’ve realized that sometimes, the hardest choice is choosing yourself over the person you thought you were supposed to be with. The Early Days: The Connection That Felt Real Like many stories that start out with excitement and passion, my connection with Sincere began with undeniable chemistry. We connected, and I found myself falling for him in a way that felt intense, almost like a fairytale . There were moments where he made me feel wanted, desired, and loved. The intimacy between us was something I cherished, and th...

Navigating Love, Boundaries, and Self-Respect: A Journey of Letting Go

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Hello Everyone; I want to talk about love, Love. It’s a word we all seek, but what happens when the love we give ourselves is overshadowed by the love we so desperately want from someone else? The truth is, when we put all our worth into someone who doesn’t value us the way we deserve, it can tear us apart. I’ve been there. I’ve felt that gut-wrenching pain. And I want to share my journey of heartbreak , self-doubt , and ultimately finding the courage to choose myself. The Pain of Giving Too Much I was fresh out of a relationship that had drained me in ways I didn’t even realize at the time. A year-and-a-half of emotional abuse disguised as love, and I was left holding all the weight. While I balanced school and responsibilities, he stayed in my life, contributing nothing but chaos. I kept waiting for him to show up, to support me, but instead, he ran up my bills and dismissed my dreams . I remember telling myself, “I can’t do this anymore.” But walking away from him felt like cut...

I Was 13 on the Chat Line: Validation, Danger, and Finding My Voice

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Before Social Media, There Were Chat Lines PART 1: A Young Girl Looking for Connection Hey y’all. Lately, I’ve been deep in my thoughts, thinking about my childhood specifically the stuff I explored when I was just a curious teenage girl trying to understand myself, boys, and life. Out of nowhere, I remembered the chat lines. If you’re from a certain era, you probably remember them too. Before social media was what it is today, chat lines were how a lot of us connected, flirted, and experimented with identity. But looking back as an adult and as a mom, I realize just how dangerous some of those moments actually were. Creating Lisa: My First Taste of Power I started getting on chat lines when I was really young—like 13 or 14. I’d lie about my age and create a fake persona, because I knew those spaces were meant for grown folks. But I was curious. I wanted to feel seen. The boys my age weren’t checking for Black girls like me in New York, and the chat line gave me attention I wasn’t gett...